better? Yes, several of them.
· Are there any of these girls that you think are cute? Oh YEAH!
· Are you afraid to ask a girl out? NO!
· Do you have any game? YES.
· Then what’s the problem? Why haven’t you asked one of these girls out? Well…

OK, hold on, do you really want to know why this quality guy is very hesitant to ask a girl out?!?! I mean, can you handle the truth? Because once you know the truth, you are responsible to own it. I realize my role is to be the conduit that communicates between both sides. I am willing to figure out what this quality Christian guy is thinking and then relay his thoughts, but ladies; I need you to help fix this problem.

So, the reason why he hadn’t asked a girl out in a while and why he is very slow to ask a girl out is because he is afraid she will read too much into it. You know what I’m talking about.

“Boy sees girl. Boy thinks girl is cute. Boy
looks for opportunities to be around girl getting to know her better. Girl
sees boy. Girl thinks boy is cute Boy is a quality young man. Girl
really likes boy a lot. Girl tells all her friends she likes boy.
Girl obsesses over boy. Girl thinks about boy all the time. Girl
fantasizes about becoming Mrs. Boy. Girl acts weird around
boy. Boy notices. Boy decides girl is cool, but not interested
anymore. Girl can’t accept this. Girl is devastated. Girl
tells all her friends. Friends don’t like the boy. Boy is considered
a jerk for treating girl the way he did. Boy doesn’t understand how he
mistreated girl. Girl thinks he should know. All girls now dislike
boy. Boy has to move to Antarctica to avoid the frigid climate.”

Get the point?

My advice ladies, is for you to not get so hung up on a guy, any guy. Just because a guy happens to be a quality guy that you would like to get to know better, doesn’t mean that you have to allow yourself to like him so much! Take your thoughts “captive to Christ” and don’t let your mind start planning your wedding before he even says hello to you. When you start to obsess about what every smile means or why he hasn’t called yet…ask the Holy Spirit to help you slow your roll! He will and you will fare much better in the dating game. The Holy Spirit will show you how to come across like a young lady who is worth asking out versus your anxiety that causes you to act like one of Cinderella’s step sisters trying to force her foot into the glass slipper.

Ladies you have to understand that a date is just an activity or meeting between two people with the goal of getting to know each other better. It probably won’t go any farther than that. I hate to be the one to tell you, but you need to take a chill pill. If it does turn into more than friendship, then great…enjoy, but if not, remember, you’ve made a friend. And in my experience, friends make great spouses… down the road.

Word…

Pasta’ Alex