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Wednesday, October 22, 2008
Random Relatinship Advice - Part 1 I think there is an issue with the way young Christian people show (or try not to show) their interest for a member of the opposite sex. Let's face it, as a college and young adult aged person; from time to time you are going to develop feelings for a member of the opposite sex. Since I know it's hard for you to admit to anyone, or even yourself, that you do have these feelings, we will just say, you will develop an intrigued interest in a boy or girl. So, what do you do? If you are like most young Christians, you start to hang around that person as much as you can, doing things with them, texting, calling and emailing them all the time. Your plan is to get as close to that person as you can and become "really good friends". Correct? Bad Plan! If you simply hang around with them and get to know them as much as you can, you are going to be placed into the good friend category. This may seem like a good thing because in the good friend category, you get to spend a lot of time with him or her. They tell you secrets and you get to know them better. You start to see good qualities that make you like this person even more. You enjoy the friendship and so do they. The problem is, once you are in the good friend category, it’s hard to ever get out of it! Unless of course you are Brad Pitt or Megan Fox, then you can move freely in and out of any category you want. But, no disrespect meant, you are not Brad or Megan! So, stay out of the good friend category. Instead, hang out in the casual friend category. This is where you want to be. Casual friends hang out and speak from time to time, but they don’t have the unwritten mandate to have to communicate all the time. There’s no social code of behavior that comes along with being casual friends unlike the expectations of being accountable to a good friend. If you want to call, text message or hang out with a casual friend, you do. But if not, then oh well. There’s a fascination that accompanies casual friendship. Casual friends look forward to the few times they see each other because they know it will be an opportunity to get to know the other person better. There’s good conversation, laughter and fun times, and the feeling that you want to spend more time with this person; that characterize casual friendship. Isn’t this the type of interaction you want between you and a person you are “interested” in?! The ultimate goal is to have that person of interest ask themselves this critical question: “I wonder why I feel the way I do about my friend?” When they start asking that question, then – BOOM! You got them right where you want them. Therefore, make sure you work hard to stay out of the good friend category if you think you might become interested in someone. Keep the excitement and freshness alive by not giving into the allure to become really good friends. Be patient and give the relationship time to blossom into something beautiful and special. Remember, all good things are worth waiting and in relationships, timing matters a lot. Word… P. Alex posted by Pasta' Alex # 11:39 AM   Comments: Post a Comment << Home |
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